My 2019 highlights

Who imagined their life in 2020?

I did, in 2014, as an assignment from our English teacher. We had to imagine our lives in 2020 and write a composition. Then, I imagined that I’d enter 2020 as a married woman, wife to a handsome husband earning six-figures, mother to 3 kids, living in a mansion and what not! I have to laugh! My life took a U turn and here I am: single and unbothered. I neither want to get married nor have kids. I have nothing in my name besides my degree that stays collecting dust in my drawer. Isn’t life full of surprises?! Hehe!

This past decade has been of pain, hurt, love, happiness, great friendships, tremendous growth…

My best and greatest friendship is Vicky. Vicky has been/is more than a best friend, she’s a sister I always wished for, an inspiration & role model, a saponsa, an unpaid therapist…she is my personal person. Life sometimes throws shit my way but with Vicki by my side, I manage to navigate through it all. God saw it fit and made our paths cross; Vicki has been/is the greatest highlight of my past decade. It may sound cliché but I don’t know where I would be without her.

This decade left me as a radical feminist. I must say that in 2010 if anyone would have told me that I would become a feminist, I’d have laughed at them. But here, I am. And today, I am a mentee of none other but the great Judicaelle Irakoze!

For the very first time, I underwent surgery, in August 2019. And guess what? I didn’t die! Haha! I must say that prior to the surgery, I was very scared but thanks to the surgeon, Dr Byiringiro (very cool guy with beautiful big eyes) who explained the procedure to me, I was reassured and was relaxed throughout the procedure.

October, my sweet kamonde got engaged; on her freaking birthday. She called to invite me, telling me that her boyfriend was throwing her a party and I saw it coming. I wasn’t surprised. While I hate men squeezing their damn proposals on their women’s celebrations such as birthdays, graduation (someone tell men that a ring is not a damn gift, men gotta deaden that shit already) I was freaking happy for her. Urukundo nirwogere!

November, I went to this bridal shower. It was the second one I’ve ever attended and boy, it confirmed why I stay away from such shenanigans! While, I’ve constantly found myself in damn WhatsApp groups, stayed in the shadows like a ghost and sometimes contributed, I never showed up for bridal showers. The only bridal shower I’d gone to was Kler’s. I went to this one just to decorate. But the patriarchy bullshit my ears heard coming from older and married women, oh Sweet Baby Jesus, I’ll never unhear them. I didn’t even know some women unashamedly preach such bullshit! The number that patriarchy has did on these women! Unless these patriarchy queens and princesses unlearn the bullshit they’ve been taught and stop upholding the damn patriarchy, and scamming more women, patriarchy will stay thriving!

Update: I recently weighed myself and guess what? I’ve gained 5kgs! I now weigh 50kgs! Hallelujah!

2020 is going to be awesome!