Falling in love is the best feeling in this world. But love can hurt, though it can also heal. Yes, love can hurt and everyone who has truly loved someone has felt that pain. It can destroy the same way it can build. When it begins, it creates smiles and laughs.
Love can sometimes be unfair, just like anything else in life. When we think of love, we think of the happy kind of love, the kind that is the beginning of something beautiful – something that breathes life. There is, however, another kind of love, a much darker and sadder kind of love. The love one feels when they love someone they can never have.
Contrary to popular wishful thinking, love doesn’t always end happily. It doesn’t always result in the joining of two people, the fusing of two lives into one. Sometimes, on rare occasions, it results in the wedging apart of the two who love each other the most.
Here is a story of such a kind…
Let’s start with how we got to know each other. I honestly don’t remember that well, but it all started on Facebook. We became friends and quick enough began chatting like we were old friends. We would be chatting late at night. We talked about anything ― Science, life, love, dating and relationships, IYOBOKAMANA ― everything. And you usually talked to me about her…
I would tease you saying ”…I know you miss me” and your reply was always ”uri Kay se?” You always avowed your undying love for her and I always asked ”why are you not together?” But you know, Love is a tricky thing.
Taqman loves Kay with all his soul but never got a chance to be with her (baba bikosa). They in every sense of the word “love’ each other but there is no possibility that the two will ever be together. They have never dated, or been in a real relationship. It’s a sad truth, but a truth, nonetheless. I know they are truly in love with each other ― that love you have for a person that is so deep and feels like it should last forever, but it can’t for some complicated, unfair reason.
I believe with all my heart they are destined to be together ― the magic is there, the connection feels real.
But how could life keep them apart when they love each other so much? How could life be so unfair?
Taqman has no doubt Kay loves him and he does not doubt his love for him. I am not talking about liking or fondness, I am talking here about “love” – where you know everything about the other person and he or she knows everything about you, and you love the good, bad and ugly – all.
They say they still love each other but someone or something is preventing them from being together. It could be their family (one doesn’t fit into their idea of the right person for their child), the time isn’t right (they are too busy finishing their degrees/building their careers). Whatever it is, it’s a reason beyond their control. They’d love to be together but – heck, it’s just not possible.
If you are also one of those, I’m telling you this…
If the love is there, everything is going to be just fine.
Taqman, I know the love is there. As long as you can see the same sky, breathe the same air, step on the same planet, then you are not impossible.
Ku buzima bwanyu!
Mbatuye aka karirimbo http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rupEsRUCHS4